For Samir Sharma, schoolmate and actor, who died by suicide.
A girl met a form, loving, clever, gifted, humorous man, a Bollywood outsider on the verge of massive issues. They fell in love, began residing collectively.
He mentioned he was moody. His family and friends mentioned: “Zara hatke hai, magar dil ka sachcha hai”.
He was recognized with bipolar dysfunction. He wasn’t satisfied of this, however he knew one thing wasn’t proper, so he took the prescribed medicine. She organized his physician’s appointments, monitored his medicine, else he would cease. He needed her round continuously to really feel secure. Inside hours, he might go from clinging to her to screaming at her to depart.
These days had been powerful, however outwardly the couple offered a great image. They thought individuals would not perceive.
This is not Rhea’s story; it is mine.
I hadn’t been following hers. Then I occurred to look at her interview. It hit house. This might’ve been me.
Thankfully, my story is happier. We married. He accepted his BD prognosis and manages his personal remedy. I had a depressive episode. We each began remedy.
We have been there for one another throughout our ups and downs. It’s not at all times simple.
He’s highly-acclaimed as a author, has gained awards, nationwide and worldwide.
Now we have the love and assist of our family and friends. It seems that we needn’t have apprehensive about what they’d suppose. Inspired by us, a number of individuals have sought their very own skilled assist.
This ought to be the norm. As a substitute, it is the exception.
India had began making progress viz. de-mystifying and de-stigmatising psychological well being. After which, the witch-hunt started.
Let’s be clear. This isn’t journalism. It is a horrific exhibition of individuals sinking more and more decrease in pursuit of TRPs, fueled by society’s voyeurism and voracious urge for food for salacious sensationalism, deeply rooted in misogyny.
In a single day, everyone seems to be a psychological well being skilled, declaiming with conviction that psychological well being points are fabricated by psychiatrists to make simple cash, that as a result of Sushant smiled and laughed, made future plans (apparently invented the FAU-G app), he could not have had BD.
To them I say: it is known as ‘placing up a entrance’. Due to individuals such as you.
Psychological well being points are medical points. They’re manageable, treatable. Victims are able to being productive members of society. Most haven’t got the luxurious or technique of turning into ‘Devdas’. They should not really feel ashamed or faulty, or be hesitant to hunt skilled assist for concern of judgment. Sadly, hundreds of individuals will now really feel simply that, or suppose twice about being with somebody with psychological well being points.
Rhea’s solely fault appears to be that she was an unbiased girl who fell in love with a widely known man with medical and substance abuse points. They did not have the assist of household. It led to tragedy. We misplaced an incredible expertise. She misplaced her companion. After which turns into a comfortable goal for the nation’s favorite trope: a scheming girl will get her claws into an harmless man, medication him with out his information, makes use of and abuses him for her personal (unknown) nefarious causes.
Sushant was 34 years previous, an clever, pushed, gifted man, who was conscious of his points and able to making his personal selections (together with whom he needed to share his medical historical past with). His unbiased company has been totally negated by self-appointed ‘warriors for justice’, a younger girl and her household are being subjected to a media lynching not seen even with convicted terrorists.
Bollywood shouldn’t be speaking about conspiracy theories or the ‘raja beta – daayan’ narrative. As is frequent in a neighborhood of numerous gifted, inventive, clever individuals, the incidence of psychological well being points might be larger than the nationwide common (which is 1 in 7). They stand stigmatized and vilified. And because of latest ludicrous remarks, demonised as members of some horrific den of iniquity the place everyone seems to be jacked up on medication, and a random mafia goes round bumping off individuals.
I’m not a part of Bollywood. I’m not from Mumbai. At greatest, I’m a (as soon as reluctant) Bollywood partner.
I do know these individuals – writers, administrators, ADs, DOPs, technical crews, manufacturing assistants, musicians, junior artists, spot boys (hoping to grow to be spot dada) – who make up 99% of Bollywood. I do know actors, a lot of whom do not even drink, not to mention attend frenzied drug-fueled orgies.
A movie set is indescribably boring. When my husband took my engineer father to see a shoot, he cherished the expertise. The precise course of, he mentioned, was marginally higher than watching paint dry.
The individuals who work in Bollywood actually love what they do. That is why they’re there. Typically, it’s a thankless job, which pays peanuts. On the peak of their profession, they will most likely be recognized solely inside the fraternity. But they thrive on it, by no means cease speaking about it – dissecting digicam angles, route selections, lighting particulars, script do’s and don’ts. Yawn…However I say with conviction that the a whole lot of individuals concerned within the making of each single film or present are extra centered on doing their jobs, fulfilling their inventive visions, and placing meals on their tables quite than scoring crack.
Undoubtedly, there may be some leisure drug use, some extra critical substance abuse points. However these exist throughout professions and throughout cities in India. BTW, did you eat bhaang at Holi?
Why particularly goal Bollywood?
Why create false, harmful narratives about psychological well being?
Why say ‘hai bechara’ when Sanju went public about his drug dependancy, however ‘vish-kanya’ to Rhea?
Might an trade which is drugged out of its thoughts produce the hours of content material that has stored you entertained through the lockdown; might it have created India’s biggest comfortable energy affect internationally?
Is the best solution to distract individuals from precise points to show the entertainers into the leisure?
As for the ’59 grams of ganja‘ – someplace Naga Sadhus are saying “maintain our chillums…”
(Sheebani is a cat father or mother, reader, trekkie, feminist, humanist. She simply occurs to be a lawyer.)
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