For Samir Sharma, schoolmate and actor, who died by suicide.
A lady met a sort, loving, clever, gifted, humorous man, a Bollywood outsider on the verge of massive issues. They fell in love, began residing collectively.
He stated he was moody. His family and friends stated: “Zara hatke hai, magar dil ka sachcha hai”.
He was recognized with bipolar dysfunction. He wasn’t satisfied of this, however he knew one thing wasn’t proper, so he took the prescribed medicine. She organized his physician’s appointments, monitored his medicine, else he would cease. He wished her round continually to really feel secure. Inside hours, he might go from clinging to her to screaming at her to depart.
These days had been powerful, however outwardly the couple introduced a great image. They thought individuals would not perceive.
This is not Rhea’s story; it is mine.
I hadn’t been following hers. Then I occurred to look at her interview. It hit residence. This might’ve been me.
Fortuitously, my story is happier. We married. He accepted his BD analysis and manages his personal therapy. I had a depressive episode. We each began remedy.
We have been there for one another throughout our ups and downs. It isn’t all the time straightforward.
He’s highly-acclaimed as a author, has received awards, nationwide and worldwide.
We’ve got the love and assist of our family and friends. It seems that we needn’t have nervous about what they might suppose. Inspired by us, a number of individuals have sought their very own skilled assist.
This must be the norm. As a substitute, it is the exception.
India had began making progress viz. de-mystifying and de-stigmatising psychological well being. After which, the witch-hunt started.
Let’s be clear. This isn’t journalism. It is a horrific exhibition of individuals sinking more and more decrease in pursuit of TRPs, fueled by society’s voyeurism and voracious urge for food for salacious sensationalism, deeply rooted in misogyny.
In a single day, everyone seems to be a psychological well being skilled, declaiming with conviction that psychological well being points are fabricated by psychiatrists to make straightforward cash, that as a result of Sushant smiled and laughed, made future plans (apparently invented the FAU-G app), he could not have had BD.
To them I say: it is known as ‘placing up a entrance’. Due to individuals such as you.
Psychological well being points are medical points. They’re manageable, treatable. Victims are able to being productive members of society. Most haven’t got the posh or technique of turning into ‘Devdas’. They should not really feel ashamed or faulty, or be hesitant to hunt skilled assist for worry of judgment. Sadly, 1000’s of individuals will now really feel simply that, or suppose twice about being with somebody with psychological well being points.
Rhea’s solely fault appears to be that she was an impartial lady who fell in love with a well known man with medical and substance abuse points. They did not have the assist of household. It led to tragedy. We misplaced a tremendous expertise. She misplaced her accomplice. After which turns into a tender goal for the nation’s favorite trope: a scheming lady will get her claws into an harmless man, medicine him with out his data, makes use of and abuses him for her personal (unknown) nefarious causes.
Sushant was 34 years previous, an clever, pushed, proficient man, who was conscious of his points and able to making his personal decisions (together with whom he wished to share his medical historical past with). His impartial company has been totally negated by self-appointed ‘warriors for justice’, a younger lady and her household are being subjected to a media lynching not seen even with convicted terrorists.
Bollywood will not be speaking about conspiracy theories or the ‘raja beta – daayan’ narrative. As is widespread in a neighborhood of numerous proficient, creative, clever individuals, the incidence of psychological well being points might be increased than the nationwide common (which is 1 in 7). They stand stigmatized and vilified. And because of latest ludicrous remarks, demonised as members of some horrific den of iniquity the place everyone seems to be jacked up on medicine, and a random mafia goes round bumping off individuals.
I’m not a part of Bollywood. I’m not from Mumbai. At finest, I’m a (as soon as reluctant) Bollywood partner.
I do know these individuals – writers, administrators, ADs, DOPs, technical crews, manufacturing assistants, musicians, junior artists, spot boys (hoping to change into spot dada) – who make up 99% of Bollywood. I do know actors, a lot of whom do not even drink, not to mention attend frenzied drug-fueled orgies.
A movie set is indescribably boring. When my husband took my engineer father to see a shoot, he beloved the expertise. The precise course of, he stated, was marginally higher than watching paint dry.
The individuals who work in Bollywood really love what they do. That is why they’re there. Typically, it’s a thankless job, which pays peanuts. On the peak of their profession, they will in all probability be identified solely throughout the fraternity. But they thrive on it, by no means cease speaking about it – dissecting digicam angles, path decisions, lighting particulars, script do’s and don’ts. Yawn…However I say with conviction that the a whole lot of individuals concerned within the making of each single film or present are extra targeted on doing their jobs, fulfilling their inventive visions, and placing meals on their tables reasonably than scoring crack.
Undoubtedly, there’s some leisure drug use, some extra severe substance abuse points. However these exist throughout professions and throughout cities in India. BTW, did you devour bhaang at Holi?
Why particularly goal Bollywood?
Why create false, harmful narratives about psychological well being?
Why say ‘hai bechara’ when Sanju went public about his drug dependancy, however ‘vish-kanya’ to Rhea?
Might an business which is drugged out of its thoughts produce the hours of content material that has stored you entertained throughout the lockdown; might it have created India’s best tender energy affect internationally?
Is the simplest technique to distract individuals from precise points to show the entertainers into the leisure?
As for the ’59 grams of ganja‘ – someplace Naga Sadhus are saying “maintain our chillums…”
(Sheebani is a cat mum or dad, reader, trekkie, feminist, humanist. She simply occurs to be a lawyer.)
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